Comfortable being uncomfortable
It's amazing how much you can endure a situation, even if it's uncomfortable! It's even reassuring, comfortable, cozy even! For the past few weeks, three people I know that I like have been having a difficult time with a situation. Every time I talk to them, they repeat more or less the same thing. That is, they will eventually make up their minds and move on to another stage of their lives. But the next time, they still haven't moved forward an inch. Like a wheel that always turns in the same direction at the same speed under the same conditions and with the same obstacles.
I listen to them. But this time, I dared to confront them by saying: It's comfortable to be uncomfortable, isn't it?!
Comfortable because we know the obstacles
Along the path we've been taking for years, we know where the rocks, trees, curves, and so on are. We hardly need to think about which route to take! It's as if we're setting our internal GPS to drive for us.
However, on a new route, we have to slow down, think, make sure we don't fall into a ravine, we have to listen and pay attention. The GPS hasn't recorded the new route yet, so it can't help us. So we have to use our own knowledge to get there. The reward is then WOW! We are doubly happy to have succeeded.
Discomfort protects us from FEAR
Yes, we endure discomfort because we are afraid of the unknown. We don't know how to handle this new situation. We have no benchmarks, we have to create, to face without knowing.
You know, Letting go of the past does not mean forgetting. We can recycle some of that past into something better, but different. This image of old shoes recycled into flower pots speaks to me so much. They no longer serve the purpose for which they were purchased. They have been discarded and wonderfully recycled. They are there to remind us, like an old memory that is sweet to remember. Runners could tell you what a small joy it is to go shopping for new shoes, but how hard it is to let go of our good old comfortable shoes!
When the uncomfortable becomes unbearable
We can endure an unacceptable or uncomfortable situation for a very long time. One day, it becomes unbearable to the point where it's urgent to take action. Burnout or depression can have this effect. The death of a loved one or a serious accident can also trigger the need for change. The shock we experience can have serious consequences. However, going back is impossible. It's as if life is pushing us forward. Phew, it's so uncomfortable during this time. But I assure you, the journey is worth it!
A new path is forming
I recently realized that in just a few weeks, it will be 2 years since this terrible moment crossed my life. Today, I know, it was a beautiful gift that life gave me, that of pushing me forward. I was even told: Ah Lydia, it was easy for you!… Oh la la… no! It was one of the 2 worst moments of my life, I thought I would die from it.
How do we move forward?
- First, you have to listen to each other; it's essential. At first, everything will be mixed up and not at all clear.
- Write, write, write! It helps free up space to fill with positivity.
- Dare to see what you no longer want to experience
- And dare to see what could now fill your happiness
You'll have to go through these steps many times before it really becomes clear. You might even ask for help. But make sure you consult someone who can fully respect your pace. You know, no one knows better than you what you need!
L'next article on communication, could also help you listen to what is inside you.
You just have to give time, your heart and your head time to come together.
With that, I wish you a very beautiful day of gentleness, listening to yourself. Let life be what you truly want to experience.
With much love,
Lydia
